Verses about loneliness
God is not indifferent to those who are alone: the Bible speaks honestly about it, and keeps them company.
30 passages from 16 books
1When you feel alone
- David asks God to turn to him because he is alone and afflicted
Turn to me and show me favor, for I am alone and afflicted. The distresses of my heart have grown wide; from my straits bring me out. See my affliction and my suffering, and take away all my sins.
Psalms 25:16–18 - The psalmist feels like a lonely bird on the roof
I am like a pelican of the wilderness; I have become like an owl of the ruins. I keep watch, and I am like a bird alone on the roof.
Psalms 102:6–7 - “No one inquires after my soul,” says David, with a snare hidden on his path
When my spirit grows faint within me, you know my pathway; in the path where I walk they have hidden a snare for me. Look to the right and see: there is no one who recognizes me; escape has perished from me; there is no one who inquires after my soul.
Psalms 142:3–4 - David’s loved ones and companions stand aloof from his wound
Those who love me and my companions stand aloof from my plague, and my near ones stand far off.
Psalms 38:11 - From the beginning, God says it is not good for the man to be alone
And YHWH Elohim said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make for him a helper corresponding to him.”
Genesis 2:18 - The Preacher says two are better than one: if one falls, the other lifts him up
Two are better than one, because they have good wages for their toil. For if they fall, the one will lift up his companion; but woe to him, the one who falls and there is no second to lift him up! Also, if two lie down, they have warmth; but for one how can there be warmth? And if one overpowers him, the two will stand against him; and the threefold cord is not quickly broken.
Ecclesiastes 4:9–12
2God does not leave you
- David says his father and mother abandoned him, but YHWH will gather him in
For my father and my mother have abandoned me, but YHWH will gather me in.
Psalms 27:10 - Zion says God has forgotten her; he answers that he will not forget her, and has engraved her on his palms
And Zion said, “YHWH has abandoned me, and Adonai has forgotten me.” “Can a woman forget her nursing child, so as not to have compassion on the son of her womb? Even these may forget, yet I will not forget you. Look, on the palms of my hands I have engraved you; your walls are before me continually.
Isaiah 49:14–16 - “I will never leave you, nor will I ever abandon you,” the author of Hebrews cites
Let your conduct be free from the love of money, being content with what you have, for he himself has said: I will never leave you, nor will I ever abandon you. So we say with confidence: The Lord is my helper; I will not be afraid. What will a human being do to me?
Hebrews 13:5–6 - Jesus ends with a promise: “I am with you all the days”
teaching them to keep all things that I have commanded you. And look, I am with you all the days, until the end of the age.”
Matthew 28:20 - David asks where he could flee from God, and finds him everywhere
Where shall I go from your spirit, and where from your face shall I flee? If I go up to the heavens, there you are; and if I make my bed in Sheol, look, you are there. If I take the wings of the dawn, if I dwell at the farthest end of the sea, even there your hand will lead me, and your right hand will take hold of me.
Psalms 139:7–10 - Moses tells Joshua that God goes before him and will not forsake him
And YHWH, he is the one who goes before you; he will be with you; he will not let go of you or forsake you. Do not fear and do not be dismayed.”
Deuteronomy 31:8 - Jesus promises the disciples he will not leave them orphans
I will not leave you orphans; I am coming to you.
John 14:18 - God answers the afflicted who seek water and find none
The afflicted and the needy seek water, and there is none; their tongue with thirst is parched; I, YHWH, will answer them; I, the Elohim of Israel, will not abandon them.
Isaiah 41:17
3The abandoned in the Bible
- Hagar and her son, sent away into the wilderness, are heard by God
Abraham rose early in the morning, took bread and a skin of water, and gave them to Hagar, putting them on her shoulder, and also the child, and sent her away. She went and wandered in the wilderness of Beersheba. When the water in the skin was used up, she threw the child under one of the bushes. Then she went and sat down opposite him a good way off, about a bowshot away, for she said, “Let me not see the death of the child.” And she sat opposite him, lifted up her voice, and wept. Elohim heard the voice of the boy, and the angel of Elohim called to Hagar from the heavens and said to her, “What troubles you, Hagar? Do not be afraid, for Elohim has heard the voice of the boy where he is. Get up, lift up the boy, and hold him with your hand, for I will make him a great nation.” Then Elohim opened her eyes, and she saw a well of water. She went and filled the skin with water and gave a drink to the boy.
Genesis 21:14–19 - Elijah flees and asks to die; he feels he is the only one left
He saw this, and got up and went for his life; and he came to Beersheba, which belongs to Judah, and left his young man there. But he himself went into the wilderness a day’s journey, and came and sat down under a broom tree; and he asked for himself to die, and said, “Enough now, YHWH! Take my life, for I am not better than my fathers.” He lay down and slept under a broom tree; and there, an angel was touching him, and he said to him, “Get up, eat.” He looked, and there, at his head, was a cake baked on hot stones and a jug of water. He ate and drank, and lay down again. The angel of YHWH came back a second time and touched him and said, “Get up, eat, for the journey is too much for you.” He got up and ate and drank, and went in the strength of that food forty days and forty nights to the mountain of Elohim, Horeb. There he went into the cave and spent the night there. And the word of YHWH came to him, and he said to him, “What are you doing here, Elijah?” He said, “I have been very jealous for YHWH, Elohim Tsevaot, for the sons of Israel have abandoned your covenant, torn down your altars, and killed your prophets with the sword; and I am left, I alone, and they seek my life, to take it away.”
1 Kings 19:3–10 - Joseph is thrown into a cistern by his own brothers and sold
When Joseph came to his brothers, they stripped Joseph of his robe, the long robe that was on him; and they took him and threw him into the cistern. The cistern was empty; there was no water in it. Then they sat down to eat bread; and they lifted their eyes and looked, and look, a caravan of Ishmaelites was coming from Gilead, with their camels carrying aromatic gum, balm, and ladanum, on their way to take it down to Egypt. Judah said to his brothers, “What profit is there if we kill our brother and cover up his blood? Come, let us sell him to the Ishmaelites, and let not our hand be on him, for he is our brother, our flesh.” And his brothers listened. Then Midianite men, traders, passed by; and they drew and lifted Joseph out of the cistern and sold Joseph to the Ishmaelites for twenty pieces of silver; and they brought Joseph to Egypt.
Genesis 37:23–28 - Jeremiah sinks in the mud of a cistern and Ebed-melech brings him out
So they took Jeremiah and threw him into the cistern of Malchijah son of the king, which was in the court of the guard, and they let down Jeremiah with ropes. In the cistern there was no water, but only mud, and Jeremiah sank in the mud. And Ebed-melech the Cushite, a man, a court official, and he was in the house of the king, heard that they had put Jeremiah into the cistern —now the king was sitting in the gate of Benjamin— And Ebed-melech went out from the house of the king and spoke to the king, saying, “My lord the king, these men have done evil in all that they have done to Jeremiah the prophet, whom they have thrown into the cistern; and he will die where he is because of the famine, for there is no more bread in the city.” Then the king commanded Ebed-melech the Cushite, saying, “Take with you from here thirty men, and bring up Jeremiah the prophet from the cistern before he dies.” So Ebed-melech took the men with him and went into the house of the king, to a place under the treasury, and took from there old rags and worn-out clothes, and let them down to Jeremiah into the cistern with ropes. And Ebed-melech the Cushite said to Jeremiah, “Put, please, the old rags and the worn-out clothes under your armpits, beneath the ropes.” And Jeremiah did so. So they pulled Jeremiah with ropes and brought him up from the cistern; and Jeremiah stayed in the court of the guard.
Jeremiah 38:6–13 - Jesus cries out with a loud voice: “My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?”
And about the ninth hour Jesus cried out with a loud voice, saying, “Eli, Eli, lema sabachthani?” that is, “My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?”
Matthew 27:46 - Everyone deserted Paul at his defense, but the Lord stood by him
At my first defense no one stood by me, but all deserted me; may it not be counted against them. But the Lord stood by me and strengthened me, so that through me the proclamation might be fully carried out and all the nations might hear; and I was rescued from the mouth of the lion.
2 Timothy 4:16–17 - Jesus says they will leave him alone, and yet the Father is with him
Look, an hour is coming, and has come, when you will be scattered, each to his own, and will leave me alone; and yet I am not alone, because the Father is with me.
John 16:32
4A place in God’s family
- God is father to orphans and makes the solitary dwell in a home
Father of orphans and judge of widows is Elohim in his holy dwelling. Elohim makes the solitary dwell in a home; he brings out prisoners into prosperity; but the rebellious dwell in a parched land.
Psalms 68:5–6 - Paul says we are no longer strangers, but members of God’s household
So then you are no longer strangers and foreigners, but you are fellow citizens with the saints and members of the household of God,
Ephesians 2:19 - We received a spirit of adoption, and cry out “Abba, Father”
For you did not receive a spirit of slavery leading again to fear, but you received a spirit of adoption as sons, by which we cry out, Abba, Father. The Spirit himself testifies with our spirit that we are children of God,
Romans 8:15–16 - Jesus no longer calls his own slaves, but friends
No longer do I call you slaves, because the slave does not know what his master is doing; but I have called you friends, because all that I have heard from my Father I have made known to you.
John 15:15 - John marvels that the Father calls us his children
See what kind of love the Father has given us, that we should be called children of God; and so we are. For this reason the world does not know us, because it did not know him.
1 John 3:1 - The author asks us not to stop gathering, but to encourage one another
And let us consider one another for the stirring up of love and good works, not abandoning our own gathering together, as is the habit of some, but encouraging one another, and all the more as you see the day coming near.
Hebrews 10:24–25 - The first community shared teaching, bread, prayers, and goods
And they were devoting themselves to the teaching of the apostles and to the fellowship, to the breaking of bread and to the prayers. And fear came upon every soul, and many wonders and signs were being done through the apostles. And all who believed were together and had all things in common. And they were selling their properties and possessions and distributing them to all, as anyone had need. And every day continuing with one mind in the temple and breaking bread at home, they shared food with gladness and simplicity of heart, praising God and having favor with all the people. And the Lord was adding every day to their number those who were being saved.
Acts 2:42–47 - If one member suffers, all suffer with it
And if one member suffers, all the members suffer with it; if a member is glorified, all the members rejoice with it.
1 Corinthians 12:26 - YHWH gathers the banished of Israel
YHWH builds Jerusalem; the banished of Israel he gathers.
Psalms 147:2